Gwen & Russ Hedo Highlights.

Gwen and Russ

Hedo Highlights. 

Fluffy white clouds strewn across the sky fill my vision as I glaze through the airplane window. My body pressed tightly against my partner Russ as we attempted to nap on our flight home from Bi-Week in Jamaica. I rest my hand on his lap and whisper, Wow, that was incredible! 

Once again, Ricky and Bi-Events.com created a positive and safe environment for bi-sexual expression and experiences. They put great care into designing space for connecting with other like-minded and/or supportive individuals. Attendees must be bi or there with a bi-partner and support their partners’ bi-sexuality. 

The event in 2022 went so well that this year (2023), it was a total takeover of Hedonism II (Hedo). We had the privilege of attending both, and this year’s energy and vibe increased exponentially from last year. If you haven’t attended, book early through Bi-Events.com to ensure your spot, as next year is already shaping up to outshine this year. 

Last year, they dedicated the Kama Sutra room for bi-play, and there were many pool parties and events designed for our group. Rainbow-colored bracelets signified our group affiliation. Other group attendees were respectful but often distant after seeing our bracelets. 

This year, everywhere felt safe to express your bi-sexual orientation. And people did! At the nude pool, guys stroked and sucked each other’s cocks while girls played with each other’s pussies. Sometimes, there were multiple guys and girls all laughing, stroking, and enjoying being free with their sexuality. 

We delighted in the variety of sexy and expressive attire in the main dining room and restaurants. Kink night brought out some incredible outfits. Russ gained a lot of appreciation for our beautiful cross-dressers as he donned a dress, wig, and make-up for disco drag night. He even shaved his mustache and goatee! While many of us would like to see it again, he’s pretty satisfied with that being a one-time experience. 

The Disco became a dungeon. A huge shout out and thank you to Stephanie and Justin from TheKorral.com. Their knowledge and passion for BDSM carried through the classes and into their oversight of the dungeon during play hours. In our first BDSM class, we learned so much, including discovering the need to upgrade our toys, and left with some incredible hand-crafted soft leather purple floggers. We also have a list of other items we’ll ask Santa for… 

Thankfully, afternoon play became a reality, fun for all, but especially those of us who struggle to stay awake past 9 p.m. The tiny playrooms dotted around Hedo stayed busy as flirting led to playtime. The playroom beside the nude pool will always hold special memories as I enjoyed my first FFF that wasn’t interrupted by cocks. Thank you to an awesome couple who spoke up about the need to let bi-women play with each other without interruption. 

Classes on anal provided clear positive information for safe anal play. A big thank you to John and Angelique from sexpositiveme.com. We had attended a class on anal at another location that made anal out to be scary. However, John and Angelique’s presentation both encouraged and enticed us to continue exploring the various ways of pleasure. Later that week, they presented a class on dark tantra that brought together so many of my own desires and passions. 

People connected with others in deep and meaningful ways. This was more than a week of orgies, though there were plenty of them to enjoy. The app from Tom’s Trips that helped attendees connect with each other also served as a place to express fantasies and connect with others. 

Ricky led two separate discussion sessions. One was coming out as bisexual. The other wass a space to share our bi-sexual journey. A big revelation for me this week is that my bi-sexual journey isn’t something that is over. It continues, and I’m excited to continue discovering and cherishing my unique journey. 

The opportunity to hear other’s challenges on their bi-sexual journey helped me to better relate to my journey. Each person’s journey contains unique situations and challenges. Yet, there are a few key things that are fairly common. First, the realization of being bi-sexual, and second, the safe and free expression and acceptance of this sexual orientation. 

A frequent theme of individual stories was a sense of shame for having bi-sexual desires. Even in lifestyle communities, bi-sexuality carries a stigma. Many can recount a moment where they felt shamed for their bi-sexuality. For some, a partner ridiculed their desires, a parent shamed them. Some shared how they lost swinger friends after sharing their bi-sexuality with them. 

For me, my first four decades of life revolved around being a good Christian. The extreme doctrine contained words of love and acceptance. However, the message of sin and shame overshadowed this, leaving me longing to be good enough. To get this approval, I figuratively drank all the Kool-Aid available. I still feel sad when I recall the judgment I passed on those who didn’t fit the role of straight married couples engaging in missionary position for procreation or satisfying the husband’s sexual needs. 

For many years, I tried to figure out how to be good so that the psychological abuse from my husband would stop. I didn’t know it was abuse; instead, I thought it was me not being good enough. I clung to the bible verse with the words about how a husband “can be won over without words by the behavior of their wives” (I Peter 3:1 NIV) 

As a woman, my clothing was to be chaste and feminine. On one occasion, my first husband and I walked down a hallway. I was wearing a long white skirt and a soft green shirt that highlighted my eyes and hair. A man walking in the other direction smiled and looked me up and down. This resulted in my husband being angry with me and scolding me for my inappropriate dress. I kind of wish he could see the outfits I wore at Hedo!

Thankfully, I have escaped this worldview and embraced acceptance and individual autonomy. However, I realized over this past week that some of that need to be good enough has filtered into my play life with others. Sometimes, I’m timid or afraid to approach someone to play with them, worried that I won’t be good enough for them. In reality, everyone is unique and complicated, shaped by our unique experiences. 

My comfort level in connecting with others has grown. I’m shifting my focus from asking myself if I am good enough for them to how I can connect with them. Some people I may have a desire to play with will say no. And provided I have been kind in my approach, their no is about them, not me. This is a beautiful and freeing concept. We are human. Our complicated desires and expressions make us beautiful. 

My confidence in my bi-sexuality increased this week. I am embracing my journey, and I hope you will embrace yours too. And join us for another awesome week next year at Hedo! 

Written by Gwen Blodgett - Gwen and her partner Russ - they are affectionately known as Gwuss, and are both active members of bi-events. They enjoy traveling and playing in new and exciting places. Follow their vanilla adventures on Facebook at FunWithGwuss. A page that promotes laughter and positivity. Gwen writes erotica under the pen name Lynn Shaw. Have additional questions? Send them a message on bi-events.com or at funwithgwuss@gmail.com