Gwenn - Bi-event parties
Bi-event parties - a fun, safe space for bi-sexual people.
There are many reasons for a bi-event. An apparent reason occurred recently when my partner and I attended a regular swinger event. There was a pause in the activities, during which we swapped fun stories, including continuing through a leg or foot cramp. Then someone shared what they claimed was a funny story. As the story progressed, my partner and I grew pretty uncomfortable. At the end of the story, while others laughed at the homophobic punch line, we managed an awkward chuckle and moved on to another area of the party.
The story details resemble others we have heard. Perhaps you have heard these as well. The primary storyline is two couples playing together with the guys’ bodies touching, causing them both to recoil. In this story, the offending connection was simply a male hand touching a man’s thigh. Sadly, many swingers, while proclaiming acceptance of the LGBTQ+ community, still fear that they might be stigmatized if they engage in same-sex sexual contact.
Some bi-sexual swingers maintain separate profiles for their straight and bi-sexual activities. My partner and I are open in our profile and emphasize that we do not require bi-sexual play in our partners. Unfortunately, others are not as open. After reading our profile, one woman sought my partner out to let him know she doesn’t like bi-men. She then tried to rationalize, and he just told her he didn’t need her approval and walked away.
Despite the broader acceptance of bi-sexuality, many lifestyle events still exist where male-on-male or trans play is unwelcome. Female-to-female activity may occur, but it’s often more of a show for the guys. This stigmatizes the experience and creates an uncomfortable double standard. Bi-sexual activity for all, cis or trans, thrives at the Bi-events parties.
Bi-event parties include typical swinger party amenities, space for socializing, snacking, and sexual fun. The distinguishing feature is that all attendees are bi-sexual or bi-curious. Bi-comfortable partners of attendees may also attend. People freely discuss and explore bi-sexual activities without judgment. New attendees of the space receive a tour from an experienced member who will happily answer questions and help new people connect with others. The tour guide will also share any information necessary for a great experience. The primary guideline for parties is to: “Show respect to yourself and others.”
Experienced members will help introduce you to other attendees you may enjoy getting to know. The evening starts with snacks and socializing. Friendships develop between attendees, and social time helps people reconnect with each other.
Next, it’s time for the Round Robin, which is a favorite part of the events for my partner and me. The host, Ricky, will introduce himself, discuss upcoming events, and review any particular rules for the venue. Each person or couple will share their name or names. Their sexual orientation as they define it and feel it for that evening. Followed by any guidelines (desires, fantasies, or limitations) for playing with them. My partner and I take turns introducing ourselves as pansexual, open to almost anything, and versatile, but require latex-free condoms.
Then it’s playtime. Someone may ask if you’d like to join them in play, or you may desire to let someone know you would like to play with them. It is a fluid environment, and communication is vital. Remember to ask, and no means no. A genuine sexy compliment while asking can help. No one is ever obligated to take part. No reason is required to say no. If the request doesn’t excite you, don’t do it.
Bi-event parties occur in various locations, hotels, rented houses, private homes, and the annual week at Hedo! At the parties, there are plenty of options for play to suit each person’s desires and comfort levels. Options for play include privately in rooms with the door shut, playing with others in a larger room, or watching until you are comfortable taking part.
It is a safe and non-judgmental place to be with others who share your beliefs and desires and safely discuss and/or act on them if you wish. Open Communication and consent are critical elements that make these Bi-events so successful. Over the years, we have made countless friends from near and far. Special friends with whom we have conversations that are not safe for work or most other social settings.
Items to bring to a Bi-event.
At Bi-events, the restrooms have towels, washcloths, and mouthwash.
Healthy food items to share
Beverage of choice, don’t forget some water!
Condoms (I recommend multiple sizes)
Lube
Favorite toys
Wipes
Some tips for preparing for a Bi-event party.
Number one, relax! Be open to connecting with other people. Friendships are the foundation for great playtime.
Two, rest and hydrate well. If you are tired or dehydrated, it will affect your ability to enjoy the connections.
Three, be physically ready for play. Personal grooming basics; shower, shave, hair, and nails. Some backdoor housecleaning if planning on participating in anal sex.
Four, wear something that makes you feel sexy! Bring a few different outfits if you desire.
Finally, approach the event with an open mind. Know that this is a place that cares for and embraces bi-sexual people.
I have so many beautiful memories from the parties. I enjoy being part of a puppy pile where four or more bodies are connected in sexual play. The touching, moaning, sucking, and stroking bring me to a place of sexual freedom. A particular favorite is the night four of us played on the swing—so much pleasure and freedom. I’m looking forward to similar experiences again.
The dominant theme of my favorite memories is the sexual freedom to do what feels good. At one party, I’d had much fun being part of a few piles of guys. I love seeing guys play together and being part of the pile. After a while, I wanted some pussy. So I asked a hot girl, and wow, it was fantastic. She’s now one of my favorite people to see at parties. No fear of being outed. We have made incredible friends with whom we have developed robust trust.
Written by Gwen Blodgett - Gwen and her partner Russ - they are affectionately known as Gwuss, and are both active members of bi-events. They enjoy traveling and playing in new and exciting places. Follow their adventures on Facebook at FunWithGwuss. A page that promotes laughter and positivity. Gwen writes erotica under the pen name Lynn Shaw. Have additional questions? Send them a message on bi-events.com.
